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Shirley MacLaine’s only child shares shocking stories from her out-of-this-world childhood with the famously eccentric actressShirley MacLaine is an Academy Award winning actress who has graced Hollywood with her talent for decades, known for her roles in The Apartment, Terms of Endearment, and recently the BBC/PBS smash Downton Abbey. Yet—as her daughter Sachi Parker canShirley MacLaine’s only child shares shocking stories from her out-of-this-world childhood with the famously eccentric actressShirley MacLaine is an Academy Award winning actress who has graced Hollywood with her talent for decades, known for her roles in The Apartment, Terms of Endearment, and recently the BBC/PBS smash Downton Abbey. Yet—as her daughter Sachi Parker can attest—growing up with the movie star was far from picture perfect.The only child of MacLaine and her husband of thirty years, Steve Parker, Sachi’s surreal childhood began when she was sent to Japan at the age of two—though her mother would sometimes claim Sachi was six—to live with her mercurial father and his mistress. She divides her time being raised by a Japanese governess and going back and forth to L.A. to be with her mother, hamming it up on movie sets, in photo shoots, and Hollywood parties, even winning—and then abruptly losing—the role of Scout in To Kill a Mockingbird. As she gets older and attends boarding school in England and Switzerland, becomes a Qantas stewardess, and becomes involved in a series of abusive relationships she tries to unravel the mysteries of her childhood and her parents’ unconventional marriage.Including twenty never-before-seen personal photos, Lucky Me is a fascinating look at Hollywood and what it takes to succeed there, the incredible ambition of Shilrey MacLaine and the fallout it had on her only child, as well as a woman’s attempt to understand and connect with her extremely complicated parents....

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Lucky Me: My Life With--and Without--My Mom, Shirley MacLaine Reviews

  • Lolly K Dandeneau
    2019-03-10 21:12

    It wasn't a book full of earth shattering secrets beyond the clone thing (you have to read it) and while many people say 'oh boo hoo another celebs child whining about not getting everything' I don't think I agree. A child needs love and attention, regardless of who said parent is or what amazing schools one attends. It doesn't sound like she had an easy life, and while she went to great schools, it is rather crushing to imagine a mother and father with so much wealth didn't feel she should have a lick of help with college. If it's true Shirley prevented her daughter's success in acting, then you can't help but feel disgusted. I can't imagine living a life with ego-maniacs for parents must have been much fun. Actors are used to being center stage and seem to believe everyone in the world is just an extra in the great story of "ME". It is possible to have a career and still love your child. I have seen people comment that a mother and father shouldn't have to be less sexy or give up a career just because one has a child. I disagree, I say don't have a child if you don't have it in you to invest your time and love. I can't imagine being so young and being left to your own devices. The things her father exposed her to was beyond vulgar and damaging, anyone that says different shouldn't have children. I know people will laugh at how Shirley was duped by her ex, but I think everyone has something that someone skilled in manipulation could use to dupe us with. Was the way she was fooled out of money extreme and silly, yes. But I find it sad she would be more upset about that exposed secret than the fact of how cold she was as a mother. This is one side of the story, but that is with all stories, we can only write from our own perspective. A sad story. One that makes me glad I had parents that were famous only to me.

  • Mom
    2019-03-17 17:11

    This book was captivating. Sachi wrote in a way that I never wanted to stop reading. She has had a very interesting and heartbreaking life. Shrouded in mystery, levels of abuse, left on her own to basically raise herself, it's wonder she turned as well-adjusted as she has. I feel so sorry for her, sorry for anyone who must endure what she has had to. It is also an interesting insider look in to the lives of the children of celebrities. Her neglectful upbringing led her to make some bad choices in her life. However, it also taught her how to be better in the examples she had. I am glad she found happiness with her children and could find the love with them she so desperately wanted from her own parents.

  • Laurel-Rain
    2019-03-06 17:09

    The only child of MacLaine and her husband of thirty years, Steve Parker, Sachi's surreal childhood began when she was sent to Japan at the age of two—though her mother would sometimes claim Sachi was six—to live with her mercurial father and his mistress. She divided her time being raised by a Japanese governess and going back and forth to L.A. to be with her mother, hamming it up on movie sets, in photo shoots, and Hollywood parties, even winning—and then abruptly losing—the role of Scout in To Kill a Mockingbird. As she got older and attended boarding school in England and Switzerland, became a Qantas stewardess, and then became involved in a series of abusive relationships she tried to unravel the mysteries of her childhood and her parents' unconventional marriage.Including twenty never-before-seen personal photos, "Lucky Me: My Life With--and Without--My Mom, Shirley MacLaine" is a fascinating look at Hollywood and what it takes to succeed there, the incredible ambition of Shirley MacLaine and the fallout it had on her only child, as well as a woman's attempt to understand and connect with her extremely complicated parents.As a fan of Shirley MacLaine, I have always been curious about the less publicized aspects of her life, like her daughter, Sachi Parker. I recall seeing Sachi in bit parts in some movies, and noticed the striking physical resemblance between the two.But so much about Sachi is distinct, unique. Perhaps growing up in Tokyo and being separated from her mother for large chunks of time informed a lot more about her life than just the obvious elements.In reading Sachi's story, her feelings of loss and abandonment shone through for me. And perhaps knowing more of the details of what her life looked like and how it felt for her has helped me fill in some of those missing details of MacLaine's life, as well.I like this summing up of Sachi's perspective near the end of the story, when she concludes that she still doesn't understand her mother:"It has taken me this long to realize that I don't need to understand her. She's on her journey, and I'm on mine. Our lives may intersect at crucial points, but there's no reason to expect them to run side by side, on parallel tracks. Mom's spirit bounces all over the universe like a jet-powered pinball, and every now and then it settles beside me for a moment before some visionary impulse shoots if off again. I'm just a stop on the road: she doesn't need me, not at all, and she isn't going to pretend for propriety's sake that she does. She's off fulfilling her destiny."It takes a lot of courage to accept the reality of one's relationships, especially those most significant in our lives. I also like this summing up in the final paragraphs:"Looking back over my life, I see that it's full of providential moments, moments of serendipity and grace. Whenever things seemed desolate, whenever I was poised to capsize, something unexpected always came along to help me out."What I see as I read this story of a woman's journey is that the mother and daughter are not as different as they appear at first glance. They are each vying for her own place in the world, and doing it on her own terms. And while some readers will only see the opposing points of view and conclude that someone is "lying," I see that life is often like that. There is your truth, my truth, and the real truth somewhere in between. Four stars.

  • Jo-Ann Murphy
    2019-02-18 13:57

    Ms. Parker is an excellent storyteller, just like her mother. She began by hinting there was a big mystery to be revealed later to keep the reader inerested. But even without that fact, I would have found it hard to put this book down.I always admired Shirley MacLaine as an actress and this clarifies just what a great actress she is. It is obvious that despite her great act as an enlightened human being, she is very far from that but knows how to act and get people to part with their money.It is amazing this girl grew up without being a total basket case. Her stoy is fascinating and I have to admire her in many ways. Though the book often drove me crazy. Things that seemed obvious to me, she seemed oblivious to, such as her mother sabotaging Sachi's career.Because she is a good storyteller, there is probably some exaggeration. But even allowing for that, I don't think these parents should have been alowed to have a goldfish, let alone a child.I think there are areas where she could have gone deeper and into more detail, especially about how it affected her growth. However, this is the story of a wounded child. I hope she will follow it with the story of the woman she became.She finally comes to realize in the book that she was delusioal to think her mother was ever trying to help *her career. I have seen her say she stll wishes for a relatioship with her mother, but I think after this book, she is still delusional.

  • Jeannine
    2019-03-06 17:19

    Ah, tell-all books by celebrity children. Love them, beware of them. I don't believe half of what went on in Mommie Dearest (think about it, if your adoptive mother obliterated you from her will you're not exactly going to be motivated to write something lovely about her and you can pretty much say whatever you want because, she's, well, she's dead. Add to that, no less than Myrna Loy said Christina Crawford was full of crap and I believe Myrna Loy). Bette Davis's daughter - whoa - she's a loon. So, I approached this book by the daughter of Shirley MacLaine with an open, but skeptical, mind.This was an engrossing page turner about Sachi Parker - the daughter of Shirley MacLaine and "businessman" Steve Parker - who grew up mostly in Japan with her father, while MacLaine worked on her movie career based out of LA. MacLaine and Parker were married in this fashion for 30 years, a marriage (it is revealed in the book) that was based on some very bizarre notions on MacLaine's part (think: government, clones, outer space - no, I'm not kidding). Sachi (Stephanie) Parker didn't have the easy life you might expect when your mother is a famous (and wealthy) actress. She had two truly kooky parents who (the author is generous here) did the best they could, but often the best they could was very disturbing to this reader. Sachi's tone in this book doesn't reek bitterness - she is generous with her parents' faults and even solicitous of her mother's more kooky "philosophy" about aliens and reincarnation, etc - in fact, Sachi (or her ghostwriter) has a delightful sense of humor. Mostly the reader is left with Sachi's confusion and sadness about some of her mother's behavior towards her, specifically with regards to her own acting career and encouragement in general. This exchange, in a therapist's office made me laugh:"People don't like nepotism in this business," Mom said. (This was one of her favorite maxims, although I didn't see much evidence for it in Hollywood). "You have to make it on your own. I did.""Yeah, well, you had Charlemagne and E.T. helping you." Hee hee.Parker's account of her various careers and romance misadventures are compelling (although in a couple of instances the latter were a bit TMI for this reader). Parker spent time as a ski instructor, a Quantas airline stewardess (where she scored the highest ever on the empathy test), and as an actress where she worked with no less than Geraldine Page!As for Shirley, well, I've always thought she was a fruit loop, but love her performances in The Apartment and Terms of Endearment, and I will always love those performances. But this book only solidified her fruit loopiness. Once again, you can love a person's art but not necessarily the person. I don't think this book revealed too much more than Ms. MacLaine has already personally shared in her own books.This was a real page turner. Thoroughly enjoyed it and I wish Ms. Parker every good thing in her future.

  • Shannon Breen
    2019-03-19 17:12

    Another child of a star who gets herself publicity and tries to make some cash by playing on a famous parent's name. While no doubt Shirley MacLaine is not Mother of the Year material (who would let her 2 year old child go live on the other side of the world?), Sachi Parker seems determined to make all her shortcomings someone else's fault. ** Spoiler: I was particularly annoyed when the 27 year old got pregnant, but didn't have any money and ultimately had an abortion. If I had been in MacLaine's shoes I would have helped my daughter financially if she wanted to keep the child, but by the same token it is ultimately Parker's responsibility. She was not some 17 year old who got lured into the back seat of a car. She was a grown woman. After aborting the child, she then somehow a few years later has money for breast enhancement surgery. Not sure how I see her choices as superior to her mother's. I do think that MacLaine was an absentee parent who put her career first and that's sad. I'm still not sure why she felt the need to tell the world this. We all have issues with family members and things that have happened to us. I resent offspring of the famous using the publishing world as a therapist and then letting us pay for the privilege of listening to their problems. I also found that, without the MacLaine stories, Parker herself is not very interesting. She also, in my opinion, doesn't have her mother's gift for storytelling. I was very glad to be done with this book and while it may not have increased my regard for MacLaine, it left me with a really bad feeling toward Parker.

  • Sandra
    2019-03-05 12:55

    I'm between a 2 or 3. I find most of what is here believable. I think she is honest in her thoughts and feelings. As with most Autobiographies, the author hides the truth behind other things so they can put it out there with out feeling too exposed. All I know is what we all know. This child did spend her life with her Father. Her Mother, Shirley Maclaine spent her life doing her own thing. Acting and all. The abuse she took from her parents is mostly mental abuse and as a Mother my self I don't know how you leave your child to fend for it self at age 2 and think it's okay. Or abandon them in foreign countries with no money and no way to contact you. But the the moment I smiled was when Sachiko helps her Mother understand that her Mother's husband has conned her for their whole married life. That he's ripped her off to the tune of over 18 millions dollars. I was very happy when the "gravy train" stopped and Ms. Maclaine divorced her husband. You have to remember that Ms Maclaine was 24 years old when she met her husband and he saw a money machine and she saw love. Sad, but often true for people who have money. I find Sachiko refreshing in her story telling. I enjoyed the read. whether it's an honest account? Well, you can ask a room full of people what happened in an evening and you will get different answers form them all. I just hope that Shirley Maclaine can open her heart to her daughter as she seems to do for everyone else.

  • Denise
    2019-02-22 20:07

    This wonderfully written memoir by the daughter of the actress, Shirley MacLaine, is definitely not your typical child-of-a-celebrity-mommie-dearest story. It was an emotional roller coaster that was equal parts sad, shocking, and triumphant—but mostly shocking. In fact, some of the events the author shares are so outrageous that one would be tempted to write the entire story off as a complete fabrication.'ve read Shirley MacLaine's previous works. Yet in spite of the indifference and neglect the author suffered at the hands of her dangerously disconnected parents, she continues to believe in their redemption, even in the midst of their repeated and often brutal betrayals. I found myself either marveling at the author’s resilience, or cringing as I read about her childlike trust and unwavering faith in questionable characters who were some of the worst that humanity had to offer. But even those people didn’t come close to inflicting the kind of damage on her that the parents kept dishing out well into her adulthood. The triumph of this story is that Sachi Parker remains steadfast in her compassion and understanding of her parents (and many of the awful human beings she’s encountered). I guess that’s what made her particular story so compelling for me. Once I started reading this book, I couldn’t put it down.

  • Diana
    2019-03-08 13:16

    This book drove me nuts on many levels. While I am sure Shirley McClaine was not the best mother, Sachi Parker takes no responsibility for her life. Everything is always someone else's fault. Spoiler****she basically accuses her father of being lewd and inappropriate with her, but backtracks and questions if she is remembering right (something she does throughout the book). She is not even concerned with trying to become a good actress, she just wants her award-winning mom to get her good parts. I had to agree with the demonized Shirley McClaine, if Sachi was as good as she boasts, and everyone in Hollywood knew who her mother was, she would have gotten more parts. Sachi spends the book blaming her parents (and they definitely sounded off-balance) for every failure. Every lost acting part is because her mother "sabotaged" her. The writing is terrible and laughable. I usually love books like this, but you would have to suspend all belief to really believe this tripe. I also got a little sick of hearing about how truly talented she is and how beautiful.

  • Marilyn
    2019-03-19 17:15

    I need a third party to write a book about the daughter, the dad (or whoever he is!), and Shirley MacLaine to try and piece together what really did happen with the the three of them. Whatever the truth, clearly Sachi Parker did not have an ideal upbringing! I love Shirley MacLaine's acting, but it cast a shadow on the rest of her for me.

  • Tracy
    2019-02-23 19:03

    I found this tale as fantastical as Shirley MacLaine's books on UFOs and reincarnation.

  • Mediaman
    2019-03-17 21:05

    This shocking story proves that Shirley MacLaine is one of the worst people ever to walk the earth, that she is so insane that she should probably be locked up, and that her ignored daughter is still in denial awaiting her mother's love.The book contains so many stories that are hard to believe that you'll read with mouth agape. Without giving too many secrets away, you have to wonder how a mother can so ignore a daughter (Parker was sent away at age two and only saw her mother once or twice a year for the rest of her childhood), how a father can be so cruel and creepy (lying, inappropriately touching, taking his six-year-old daughter to a gay club where the waiters are naked), and how this abandoned daughter isn't more bitter. To the end she remains unrealistically optimistic and forgiving, rarely learning from the abuse she suffers at the hands of her parents.If you don't think MacLaine is 100% crazy then you need to read this book. She is looney, cuckoo, and wacko, along with being completely selfish, unloving, demeaning, and out of touch with reality. She should be locked up in a home or put on trial for child abuse. Not only did she hide a major family secret from her daughter for decades, but she sent the child off to school in England then "forgot" to pick her up during her break (15-year-old Parker wandered Europe alone instead without ever confronting her mother) and balked whenever her daughter asked for money (MacLaine loaned Parker $500 for a car only after agreeing to a huge interest rate and years later demanded $850 back from her). While mother spent millions on multiple homes and would buy $2,000 blouses for herself, she wouldn't give her child a penny. She refused to pay for any college education. And she practically forced her daughter to have an abortion. I don't think I've ever read a story of a worse parent.The problem with the book (which I read in one afternoon) is that it's too long, filled with some meaningless stories about Parker's small acting career in the last third of the book (anti-climactic after the major secret is revealed). And that the author didn't really learn much from her terrible parents. She claims in the last page that she's "lucky" even though as you read this you have to think that her whole life story is very sad. She's still that little girl looking to win her mother's love.

  • Susie Geiser
    2019-02-26 20:01

    Fast read, and the story is well told. This is no Mommy Dearest. Joan Crawford, apparently put a lot of work into raising her daughter before she gave up and sent her to boarding school. MacLaine, on the other hand, sent her 2 year old to Japan to live with her husband and his bitter mistress. The entire premise of her parents' marriage is based on a ridiculous deception. So ridiculous, it could only be believed by Shirley MacLaine.Sachi Parker clearly loves her mom, but the story she tells makes me wonder why, but only because Shirley is not MY mom. MacLaine, like many actors, is a narcissist. She was a product of the sexual revolution, and fiercely ambitious about her career. Add to that her own difficult upbringing, and I'm not surprised that she preferred to be her daughter's playmate in small doses and then drop her off with her father on the other side of the world and pursue her own adventures.I'm impressed that Parker has been able to thrive, given that she had little support, emotionally or financially from her parents after high school. I'm sure MacLaine will use this as an excuse to separate from her only child permanently, which is sad because a) Parker was just telling the truth of her childhood, and b) the truth I got out of the book is that MacLaine is a delightful, fun, intelligent, ambitious woman who's prone to narcissistic, diva behavior and tales of supernatural nonsense. I already knew that. Parker's dad was the real monster, but at the end of his life he owned up to it and was forgiven, so maybe that's Shirley's problem.

  • Robin
    2019-03-06 16:55

    I've always been fascinated with Shirley MacLaine's unconventional marriage and life, and I've had a hard time putting this down.Update: Rounding this up to 3.5 stars. Send in the ClonesThis remained compelling despite the echoes of "Mommie Dearest" (minus the wire hangers), although there were times I was totally annoyed with the author. There were "abuse" issues (more on that in a minute) but what really bugged me was Sachi's constant lamenting the lack of financial help from her parents along with Mom's refusal to practice any nepotism in getting her daughter juicy acting roles; Sachi could have taken a bit more responsibility for many of her own life decisions. One example is that Shirley could have easily afforded the college tuition she refused to give her daughter but Sachi could have done something on her own instead of taking dead end jobs all over the world and depending on the kindness of strangers. That being said, her parents were pretty screwy and Sachi was treated pretty badly at times.Now, about the abuse Sachi suffered, some of which is suspect as she is a very unreliable narrator: during Sachi’s upbringing while under her father, he refused to LET HER READ BOOKS! The horror, the horror indeed…And the clones reference? You’ll have to read the book as you have to read it to believe it.

  • Laura
    2019-03-06 13:15

    meh. Some of the writing was clunky, wonder if the second writer's sections were smoother. Or maybe she is the better writer. I've read Shirley MacLaine's books, they are interesting and even fun but it is also clear in them that she is on her own,you cannot tell that she has family or loves anyone but her work and herself. That said, overall I was disappointed here, I hoped to read the memoir of a woman who has gained strength, insight, and did not still expect or, perhaps,need the love or attention of parents. There were some parts that were illogical-moving to Japan at two, the author claims to have learned Japanese quickly after arriving. She wants independence but seems annoyed that mom never used her influence to get her an acting job, then claims to not need help, but doesn't quite consider that maybe she doesn't act so well. I'd actually want to know who she has become--family? career? Her struggle, perhaps, to overcome. But the book seems to keep her mired in the dysfunction rather than looking back on it from a better place today. I'd wish she realized, or let the reader in on the revelations that were pure abuse and neglect and sexual abuse. I hope she has risen above expecting/wanting her parents to be what they aren't.

  • Stephanie
    2019-02-25 17:57

    Whoosh! Well...I just don't know. It was certainly interesting and not at all boring. But is Sachi just a nutty fabulist like her mom? Then again...who'd make this stuff up. And somehow I have no trouble believing that - perhaps - Shirley MacLaine is this cold. If half of this stuff is to be believed then we are talking about real abuse. What kind of woman just abandons her child to such a jerk as that father of hers? The thing I mostly came away with was that Shirley simply doesn't and has never loved her daughter. No connection whatsoever. She gives it the old acting try but it doesn't seem to be there. And I guess it's taken Sachi a really long time to realize this.That is...if all this is true.

  • Caroline Moss
    2019-03-21 16:55

    this story about Sachi is touching because I lived the same kind of childhood in so many ways. I am in shock with some of it expecailly the culture of other countries wont even began to understand. this book is incredibly heartbreaking to me in so many ways my life was a lot like hers but not over seas

  • Christopher
    2019-03-16 20:57

    About a month ago I saw that aging actress Shirley MacLaine was coming to Edmonton - and while doing a Google Search I discovered her daughter had written her bio recently. I didn't even know she had a daughter. So, I read her bio."Lucky Me" (2013) by Sachi Parker is quite a candid account of Sachi's life - including her bitter-sweet, early recollections of the time she spent almost exclusively with her father (Steve Parker) and his mistress in Japan. Without her famous mother's presence - it is clear that her general attitude to her only daughter seems closer to neglect than loving, emotional support - unless you call it "tough love". It also sets the tone for their relationship over rest of her life. Of course Shirley MacLaine has always cultivated herself as a "tough dame" in a tough business and so it is not hard to argue with that attitude given her sucess. It is just disappointing to see any mother with such brittle emotions to their own daughter. But such hardheartedness seems to square generally with what other actors and directors have said about MacLaine.From there we move on to Sachi's teen and young adulthood as she seeks to develop her own identity - including boarding school and instead of University being cast out "on her own" without financial assistance "to make something if herself" - virtually an unheard of attitude then as now. This required bed-hopping common to the 1980's sexual revolution - featuring a couple of years as a QUANTAS flight attendant and her first marriage in the Oz Outback. Then back to America re-uniting in some small degree with her mom and attempting to forge a career in TV/Film. That she gained critical acclaim in a Japanese film production of a well-loved children's book "The Witch of the West is Dead" was an important turning point in Sachi's personal understanding that she DID have what it took to be successful in Entertainment or whatever else she wanted to achieve - but then she mistakenly thought her own mother would naturally help her with that goal - and was bitterly disappointed to discover otherwise. It appears that was a major turning point in their ongoing relationship - perhaps not resolved even now. And who could blame her.[Is this a special Hollywood form of Munchausen Syndrome? It sort of reminds me of the parental alienation suffered by Bill Hudson - ex-husband of actress Goldie Hawn and the father of their daughter Kate - who remains estranged from his children by her. Is such alienation/estrangement a necessary part of parent/child identity formation in extreme sucess? Apple founder Steve Jobs never reconciled with his father after his parents split - and there are numerous examples of such parental alienation/estrangement in every walk of life.]As one follows Sachi's early family life one becomes aware how Shirley MacLaine seemed quite conscious she was sacrificing her role in her daughters upbringing to achieve fame & fortune in the Entertainment Industry. The title "Lucky Me!" gains a special irony as seems to be a roman a clef response to her mothers 1995 tell-all biography "My Lucky Stars" in which we discover different and contradictory personal accounts of why and how she was abandoned to her father in Japan for her childhood. These early accounts that had comforted Sachi as a child - were now smashed with what seemed cruel, self-serving fictions. It also included the obvious admission of her parents "open marriage" - but not before Sachi disclosed how "open" it was to MacLaine - leading to some rather disturbing conclusions about exactly what her father was - a wastrel, charlatan or just a common flim-flam man - and if he was indeed her actual biological father at all - or just an astral manifestation dreamt-up by her mother.Instead, I think Sachi Parker found that she - unlike her famous mom - was formed by her experiences to be almost the polar opposite of her parents - warm, caring, sexy, constantly seeking parental validation (or whatever was the emotional equivalent) open to exploiting her show-biz genes but even more excited and empowered by motherhood. That is as far from modern Feminist kant as one could get. Also, in describing her regret over her an early abortion she refers to the near-spiritual revelation she experienced after she felt she had conceived Arin, her daughter:"That night is vivid in my memory: my husband and I had made love around midnight, and now it was around 4:30 in the morning. I was in a half-awake, half-asleep state, when quite suddenly a beautiful, indescribable feeling of love, happiness, and peace washed over me. Some kind of being, a female being - an angel, perhaps - had ntered my body, and I felt transformed and transfigured, and suffused with great serenity." p251I suppose the lesson for Sachi Parkers life is that women can not "have it all" - but hard choices lead to tough families - but not all are so "lucky" to have to lived thorough them. Certainly I am astonished that Sachi managed to survive as she did - despite a near constant string of dubious relationships and her final broken marriage. In general it reaffirmed my conviction that most Hollywood stars are not fit to be parents - and in that - are not too different than the rest of us human beings - in that we are all ourselves reformed by the parenting experience to be more than just "a sum of parts". Their children either learn from the parental experience by serendipity - or die trying. Sachi makes the wonderful analogy between a traditional Japanese Zen Garden arrangement of 15 stones called karesansui - where all the stones are very carefully placed so that one can not see them all at the same time."That's how it is with people and relationships. There's always that fifteenth stone that you can't see but you know its there. .... You can never see a person or relationship or a life whole. There are to many angles." p342

  • Zils Ahmad
    2019-02-25 21:21

    I love this book. I've been reading memoir and biographies these past few years. And I like to see transparent people who are honest with their demons and life test and tragedies. As Sachi is a child of a famous actor, I thought this would be a boring book of luxury and fine things, but I was wrong. But from this book, I can totally say, the bad things that happen throughout our lives, shape us and forced us to make choices. And that choice is what we are. And nobody can take it from us. You cannot choose your parents and situations, but how you deal with it will surely counts.I think Sachi might have enjoyed her childhood and remember them more dearly if she could forgive and forget. After all she gets to travel and experience a lot of things and she developed a powerful sense of empathy, humility and compassion. In the end, it is the hollywood happy ending.

  • Kristal
    2019-03-08 14:02

    I'm still not sure what to think about this book. Sachi obviously had a challenging childhood and I don't doubt most of her claims because both of her parents seem like they were way too self-absorbed to take a proper interest in her upbringing. Still, some of the stories as she aged seem a bit outrageous and trumped up for the sake of supporting the "my parents are horrible" narrative.

  • Lori
    2019-02-23 20:12

    A *3.5* I was a bit reluctant to read this book. I tend to shy away from "tell all" memoirs.Sachi Parker is the daughter of Shirley MacLaine. this is Sachi's memoir of her life growing up with a famous Movie star for a mother. I imagine her whole life she must have been told " how lucky she is to have a movie star for a mother' This memoir of Sachi's life and her lonely life as a child, she writes that she was sent to Japan at two years old to live with her father.Steve Parker. and only saw her mother summers, and for very short stints. Her father called his daughter "idiot" and Sachi had to deal with a woman named Miki her father's mistress who treated her badly. she spent her teen years at boarding school and during one summer break, no one came to pick her up and she had to depend on strangers to help her for five weeks. according to Sachi her mother Shirley Maclaine put her career first and saw little of her daughter growing up.She said that she discovered her father was a con artist bilking Shirley M.out of millions of dollars by convincing Maclaine with "out of this world" claims. Her adult years trying to survive on her own had it's difficulties. she took jobs as waitresses and a stewardess.both parents could be pretty selfish according to this memoir.Sachi does write good things about her mother such as rescuing her from a bad relationship and some fun times they had together.She also writes of many betrayals her mother {supposedly} did to her such as blocking Sachi from getting roles in movies.One account she gives that i find kind of sketchy is her mother encouraged her to audition for a role in a movie along side her mother. the role is supposed to be a woman of 26.Sachi was 50 at the time.{come on no 50 year old can pass for 26}Sachi was convinced she had the role but found out later her mother blocked her from getting the role. according to Sachi, her mother was protective of her own career. I read this book with the belief that this is Sachi Parkers view of her life. Guess we all have our own memoir and those who know you, may not agree. or have their own version of what happened. I read that Shirley Maclaine said she would give this book a "0" star and she was heartbroken and called this book "fiction" In all fairness to Sachi Parker. she writes well. I got the feeling when I read this book that Sachi comes off as the victim each time. never taking blame for herself. I would be curious to see what Shirley Maclaine would say in defense for herself. I have read a few of Ms. Maclaine's books. she can be quite eccentric in her beliefs. this was pretty good for the most part. I just keep in mind that this is Sachi Parker's. recall of her life.

  • Julie
    2019-03-15 17:08

    I do enjoy a memoir, how growing up so much of who we are is formed by the people around us. Sachi Parker is the daughter of the actress Shirley MacLaine. Sent at age two to live in Japan with her father, and his live in mistress she saw little of her mother over the years, just returning to spend holidays with her. It appears too, that her mother did not want her to grow up spoilt and reliant on her, and instead seemed to just ignore her daughter and not truly understand her.Her childhood made me sad, as her father and his lover were a bit distant and wrapped up in themselves and you could feel her sense of being lost and a bit unloved. As soon as she graduated high school, she was left to fend for herself with limited input from either parent or any other family member. Much as I cringe at the children of modern day celebrities, who flaunt their extravagant lifestyles when they seem to leach out of their parents, I really felt for the author.I thought that Shirley MacLaine may have been a little bit kooky after reading her books. After reading this book - I'm sure she's nuts.

  • Polly
    2019-03-20 18:19

    I'm a huge Shirley MacLaine fan, and will remain one. I'm a fan of what I see on screen. Sachi Parker paints a picture of what her mother is like off screen, and what her upbringing was like. It's the type of story I love, which is that human spirit can triumph over extreme adversity. The fact that her mom is famous is almost secondary, if you ask me. This book could have been published anonymously, and it would still have been worth a read.I'm there will be some Shirley MacLaine fans who are going to be really unhappy that Parker did a tell all, but it's her story too! She's allowed to tell it. That's kind of the whole thread throughout the book - Shirley is threatened by anyone else who might outshine her, not the least her daughter. (But Marion Ross, gee, didn't know that.)One other thought - if by chance Sachi Parker reads this - what's the point of trying to make friends with your mom anymore? She's not going to change - that would be impossible. Why put yourself through anymore angst? To get to the fruit of the tree, go to a supermarket.

  • Elizabeth Stolar
    2019-02-28 16:52

    I don't typically read memoirs/bios of or about entertainment celebrities but this was recommended to me via a discussion about narcissistic parents. I happen to have had fabulous parents, but have read some very interesting memoirs and articles by people who had parents who were narcissistic or had other severe psychological problems or mental illnesses. That experience is so vastly different from my own and my heart breaks for people who have endured this. This was a quick and interesting read (I read it in one day), and I have to say I found one portion of it involving a very deep and significant deception (I don't want to spoil it) to be nothing less than shocking. It is sad to see how the author still desperately longs for and misses a loving parental connection. 4 stars not because I think it's a must-read or world-changing, but because it delivered exactly as I expected. For the type of book it is, it succeeds (although I am left wondering what happened with the author's husband, as it is not explained).

  • Nikmaack
    2019-03-01 21:13

    I was reading an article about people who hate mother's day. The author mentioned Mommy Dearest, and the daughter of Shirley Maclaine. What? Shirley Maclaine? Man oh man, what kind of parent would she be? New age flakes alien loving reincarnation beleving Shirley Maclaine? So I tracked down this book. It is a bit trashy and dishy, incredibly intense, and quirky as heck. Shirley Maclaine is crazier than you know. Her daughter had to deal with a lot of oddity and selfishness from both her weirdo parents. Heartbreaking, difficult, fun, and amazing. I zipped through this book with lightning speed. Definitely tough to put down. Less a Hollywood dish than a look at a difficult life, it's an extremely readable book and I really enjoyed it. A bit superficial in places, but hey, that's Hollywood.

  • Terri Tinkel
    2019-03-20 20:05

    What would it be like to be the child of a famous actress? Apparently, it isn't always wonderful. Sachi Parker is the daughter of Shirley MacLaine. She recalls her life in this book filled with many stories and odd occurrences. At first, I wondered if Sachi was as full of Irish blarney as her mother seems to be. But as I continued to read, most all of it seems very probable and even believable. How this child of one of our country's most beloved actresses still managed to find herself in spite of both of her parents is the real story.How this woman who was called idiot by her father from a very young age, sent away at age two by her mother and moved to Japan to live with her father, put in various boarding schools and often not even inquired about for months by either parent is hard to believe.But somehow she managed to find her way and make a life for herself.

  • Amy Rae
    2019-03-21 18:08

    Mediocre and not as helpful as I'd hoped. Sachi Parker's life sounds like it was kind of a mess--her father's serious boundary issues, her mother's conditional affection--but the older she gets in the narrative, the less interesting the story becomes. Even when she's a kid, it feels like everything's pretty glossed-over, and there wasn't always as strong a sense of her age or the era around her. Her boarding-school experiences, the book's original draw for me, were barely touched on, and what we got was shallow and cliche.If you're a Shirley MacLaine fan, you might like it. (On the other hand, she comes off pretty unpleasant in it, so maybe not.) If you aren't, it's a pretty safe miss.

  • Teresa
    2019-03-21 13:18

    I just finished this book. Verrrry interesting. I had to find out what Shirley's daughter had to say about her. I used to be searching for truth (haven't stopped of course, but the Mystery of life is wonderful too.) so I had looked into a lot of similar things that Shirley MacLaine was interested in. It sounds like she went way beyond just interest. I didn't know what to think about some of the things that Sachi wrote. Did she really have some good times with her dad? He sounds like sociopath. But I can believe that her life was just like she says pretty much. She sounds pretty upbeat for all she's been through. I'M DYING TO KNOW HER MOM'S REACTION!!!

  • Linda Lauren
    2019-03-13 21:12

    This book was very sad and such intolerance on the part of MacLaine is very easy to believe and accept, as many people will attest regarding encounters with her both off and on set.However, no one is in a position to judge another human being and especially because someone read some books that swayed them negatively. Sachi Parker wants a mother's love. Shirley MacLaine doesn't want to give that love. It's unfortunately very simple.

  • Carolyn F.
    2019-03-19 21:13

    Hmmm, wow, I just don't know what to say about this book. It reminds me of Mommie Dearest but not as mean. There's the same blame to the mother for ruining an acting career. You love your children no matter what and the same should be for your parents, especially your mother who seemed to really love you but was conned by someone she trusted. I just don't know why this book was written.