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A searching, eloquent memoir about the joys and hardships of open adoptionGod and Jetfire is a mother's account of her decision to surrender her son in an open adoption and of their relationship over the twelve years that follow. Facing an unplanned pregnancy at twenty-two, Amy Seek and her ex-boyfriend begin an exhaustive search for a family to raise their child. They sifA searching, eloquent memoir about the joys and hardships of open adoptionGod and Jetfire is a mother's account of her decision to surrender her son in an open adoption and of their relationship over the twelve years that follow. Facing an unplanned pregnancy at twenty-two, Amy Seek and her ex-boyfriend begin an exhaustive search for a family to raise their child. They sift through hundreds of "Dear Birth Mother" letters, craft an extensive questionnaire, and interview numerous potential couples. Despite the immutability of the surrender, it does little to diminish Seek's newfound feelings of motherhood. Once an ambitious architecture student, she struggles to reconcile her sadness with the hope that she's done the best for her son, a struggle complicated by her continued, active presence in his life.For decades, closed adoptions were commonplace. Now, new laws are guaranteeing adoptees' access to birth records, and open adoption is on the rise. God and Jetfire is the rare memoir that explores the intricate dynamics and exceptional commitment of an open-adoption relationship from the perspective of a birth mother searching for her place within it. Written with literary poise and distinction, God and Jetfire is a story of a life divided between grief and gratitude, regret and joy. It is an elegy for a lost motherhood, a celebration of a family gained, and an apology to a beloved son....

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God and Jetfire: Confessions of a Birth Mother Reviews

  • Monique
    2018-12-14 16:03

    I am a birthmother in an open adoption. This is the book I have wanted to write. Although there are many differences in our stories, there are so many aspects of being a birthmother that she captures so well. As a bonus, it is beautifully written.I hope every single person in my life reads this book. I hope every adoptive parent reads this book. I hope every adopted person reads this book. Thank you, Amy Seek.Someone who I used to be close to gave this book one-star. I was surprised because she was deeply connected to me and my daughter and my daughter's family. I wonder if people don't want to hear our story. For someone connected to a birthmother, I would think that this book would produce some empathy. I wonder if our side is just too hard to hear.

  • Michelle Despres
    2018-11-20 16:13

    I had high hopes for this book, as I enjoy reading first person narratives about experiences I can only imagine.I appreciate Seek's willingness to share her confession with the world. If it weren’t for writers like her, first person accounts wouldn’t be so readily available, and we would be worse off for it.There were moments of lovely writing. Some of the transitions could have been better, and the pacing seemed off. Sometimes I was taken out of the story by pages of life details that seemed superfluous. I would have preferred a tighter narrative.There were a few times when I thought she described something perfectly – I don’t mean accurately or according to my expectations – but perfect for moving both mind and spirit. In those moments, I felt she gave me insight I wouldn’t have had otherwise, and that’s what I wanted more of.The problems for me began early in the book. I started writing down page numbers with the intent of going back to use them as examples in my review, and I ended up with over 20 numbers on that list. I won't use them here because it gives too much away. I felt she was an unreliable narrator. I also expected much more reflection. Perhaps she delivers what she advertises, but I would have preferred some commentary as she looked back and wrote about her thoughts of the past. I know they were true for her x years ago, but what does she think about them now so many years later? When she looks at that version of herself now, what is she thinking? The book felt like a reporting; I prefer some analysis also.Full disclosure: I have a sister who is a birth mother in an open adoption. She identified herself as a birth mother in her review on goodreads, so I am not disrespecting her privacy. I can’t speak for her experience. As an aunt, I feel fortunate to be in a situation where my niece is simply my niece. I'm close with her family. I've been a regular visitor to their home over the past 10+ years since she was born. In the first several years when we all lived within driving distance, my sister and I went to their house each Thanksgiving. We went to birthday parties. Her family came to my wedding. She was included in our family reunion book last year. And my niece is flying out on her own this week to stay with us for several days. She is one of the family. When someone in our family counts their great grandchildren or grandchildren, they always count her. My niece's family has always been not only open but also proactive about that openness. They send cards and gifts. They travel to see our family. They have always included us in her story. As someone who acknowledges she's on the periphery and "only" the aunt, I am so grateful my sister would consider only an open adoption.

  • Sara Joseph
    2018-11-16 16:10

    I chose this book because it seemed so far removed from anything I could conceive of doing — giving up my child for adoption. The concept of open adoptions was something I had never really thought much about. I concluded that the heroes in this story were Paula and Erik, the adoptive parents, who agreed to a really generous arrangement with the birth mother by giving her so much liberty in access to her son while they raised him. Although well written and raw, I found the book too wordy for my taste. The content saddened me and I was relieved when it was over.

  • Grace S.
    2018-12-09 19:31

    Remember, everybody, you can find a book disappointing without it being a secret slight on the topic. You're not two-starring open adoption, you're two-starring a book ABOUT open adoption which doesn't happen to be a great book.I found God and Jetfire to be bogged down. By excess detail, by off-topic musing, by the gargantuan effort made to make this book resonate. No matter how many books I read, I'll always say--good writing should (must?) be effortless. Effortless to read, effortless to write. There were too many passages in God and Jetfire where you could almost watch the author trying to heap on the gravitas, the poetic side-trips, the truth. The overly weighty passage on labor and delivery, crammed full of "poetic prose", springs immediately to mind. In that section especially I found myself rolling my eyes, wishing she'd stop trying to inflate her writing and just talk. Seek shone most in those passages where she dropped all that "won't people think my words are beautiful" effort and spoke in simple language about helplessness, or regret. I'm not entirely sure Seek knew what story she'd be telling when she set out to write this book. Less than halfway through, her son has been born and adopted, and that's about where the book's momentum hit a brick wall. Rest assured, the snapshots we see of Jonathan's life and Amy's place in it are appreciated and relevant, but I found myself struggling to find them in the dense second half. It became a relentless steam train--no high and low, no ebb and flow, only a neverending parade of words. And though I made/make an effort to cast aside my personal impressions of a memoirist, it was confusing to watch Seek contradict herself. It was hard to accept the narration as reliable, and although I respect the changing and self-contradictory nature of emotions, I'm just not sure whether she was attempting to influence my impressions. Probably because the writing frequently felt so doctored. (view spoiler)[And because the beginning of the book centered on how Amy didn't want to have an abortion, but later she indicates that it's what she wanted all along. (hide spoiler)]At the end of all the meandering, I was left with a few distinct moments of aching empathy (for the adoptive parents every bit as much as for the birth parents) but mostly wished that the editors had been a little more liberal with the red pen. Tightening up the narrative would've gone a long way for God and Jetfire.And again, just because someone didn't like this book doesn't mean they're passing summary judgment on open adoption or the validity/importance of the birth mother's story.

  • Marianne Power
    2018-12-09 22:27

    Rarely do I have time to read a book so to read it cover to cover, it has to be captivating and worth every moment.As the mentor to a birth mom, and later as an adoptive mom myself, I have a tiny window into the experience of a birth parents making the decision to place their baby for adoption. But Amy Seek not only enlarged that window but let me walk through a door, not as a voyeur but allowing me to experience the waves of emotion that only a birth mother can experience. She carefully weaves through the fabric of fathers, noting that "all fathers are really adoptive fathers" as by way of nature, they don't carry another life inside their body and can only know the child once he is born. By the time of birth, mom and baby have already bonded in a way that is impossible to fully grasp without having another person living inside of you. Amy walks her readers through each emotion -- shock, love, loss, misplaced anger, fully targeted anger, loneliness, fear -- as if a glimpse into the pages of a poet's journal but a journal written with precision, allowing her readers to understand each detail of sacrifice experienced by a birth mom. She talks about the night dreams, trying to continue with the life she once knew but returning to it changed and wounded with many judgments but without a single person who could fully comprehend the entire loss. In walking through her door, I am captivated by her experience and wonder how much of her experience was that of my own son's birth mother, never knowing how to heal the wound that happens when life begins with great loss and when someone else's great loss gave me LIFE. This is a great read for all adoptive parent, birth parents, children who were adopted and for anyone who wants to understand the complicated and yet beautiful decision of adoption.

  • Jane Night
    2018-11-15 22:04

    I need to start off by disclosing firstly that I did not finish reading this book and also that I am not in any way living with adoption. I like the topic especially because I considered adopting when I was struggling with infertility and may have adopted had fertility treatments not ultimately helped me. I really loved the idea of this book but from the get go I had a hard time really relating to the narrator. I don't know if it was her way of telling her story or if I just had a hard time connecting to her as a person. Either way, she never really clicked with me and so I was unable to get into her story. I think I would have enjoyed the content had there been a different narrator.

  • Jared
    2018-12-04 16:20

    Overall this book is a helpful insight into the perspective and experience of this birthmother, but through a significant portion of the book I was just annoyed with her "voice" and I ended up skimming through a lot of it. I can't put my finger on it exactly, but she seems whiny or something. Not a book I would strongly recommend, but if you have an interest in adoption, it may be good to read.

  • Luann Habecker
    2018-11-17 18:13

    Was intrigued by the concept of a introspective look into a birth-mother's experience. Wasn't sure what to expect.The writing held my attention straight away. Appreciate how she called this experiment of adoption, that is often romanticized, unnatural. That it didn't go away and did hurt and affect her as it should. She raised some needed questions. but then you come to page 233. seems adoption is so hard that we must murder the next child that was conceived due to our continued sinful actions. and as if that's not enough, she says it (murder) is what she should've done with Jonathan. but then wants another child when her father is dying. Why is she still bemoaning missing out on anything regarding Jonathan from this point on then?! no point in reading beyond page 233. why bring up getting Jon back? and then it's about her father's death present tense/past tense/future tense. The memoir on open adoption ended on page 233.sad how much she withheld/held back. seems open adoption isn't so open...pages of note; 35, 52, 61-62, 96, 116, 148, 163, 168, 172, 188, 195, 198, 201, 219, 223, 225, 230, 233, 255, 263, 266,

  • Christi
    2018-12-15 15:18

    I unfortunately did not finish this book....got about halfway through. I really wanted to finish it. Mostly I just didn't like how the book was written. She jumped around in her timeline a LOT! And that bugged me. I really would have preferred it to be a more linear timeline or for her to be more clear on when she was moving more into the future. Sometimes I would be reading and I would get confused where she was even at within her timeline. Not a fan of that. I don't want my bad review to reflect on what the woman lived through...that is why I so badly wanted to finish the book. I wanted to see how it all turned out for her, but the book was just so poorly written (in my opinion) that I just couldn't keep going. I think the author needed some more assistance in putting her story into words. Not everyone is a writer.

  • Amber Jimerson
    2018-11-23 20:13

    A must-read for all, either current or prospective, members of the adoption triad. Seek lays out twelve years worth of experience that could never be explained in a single conversation about adoption.It's a rare glimpse into the subtle, shifting dynamics of life, family, adoption, motherhood. Her words are powerful and reflective, even gently humorous. If we know anything about adoption, we know it is an experiment and this book captures the depths of that reality, leaving you desperate to know what happens next.

  • Allison Vieger
    2018-11-19 22:18

    A beautifully broken and real journey told from the birth moms perspective. It is gripping, at moments touching and extremely heartbreaking...tbh I cried my way through the entire thing. I would give it 5 stars but the transitions felt jumbled and out of context within Amy’s journey and I felt a little disoriented on the lapse of time that had passed.

  • Elizabeth Stolar
    2018-12-09 20:31

    This book was different than I expected -- I thought I'd be reading of a tragedy involving a woman who genuinely did not have the ability or resources to care for her child, so she places the child for adoption, and loses her relationship with the child. Instead, this is a tragedy of a different sort -- a tragedy of regret for a decision made. This author could have kept her child, relatively easily, as she was already 22 years old, and had a supportive family. She could have married the child's father, or she could have not married the child's father, yet continued to have a relationship with him, as he was willing to be an involved parent. That she didn't do these things led to some of my frustrations, although they were frustrations with her choices, rather than frustrations with the book itself, which is a very important addition to all the adoption literature that's out there.I have read quite a bit about adoption, and I adopted one of my children. So many narratives focus on the adoptive parents, and occasionally focus on adoptees, but it is rare to see a memoir of someone who relinquished a child. (And the few that do exist tend to be horrific accounts from the 50s and 60s.) I was therefore interested to read a contemporary account of an open adoption.I'm hesitant to criticize too much, because this is such an important viewpoint, and this is, after all, her own story, but I had several problems with the book. It often meanders and waxes philosophical and employs flowery language that doesn't add to the story. It also has odd timing, and I had trouble, especially after the birth of the baby, keeping track of the timeline. (And also of the various boyfriends that enter and leave her life.) I had a hard time empathizing with some parts of her story, because so many of the sad situations are self created. I couldn't really understand why she broke up with the baby's father, refusing to consider parenting with him or marrying him. And I couldn't understand her puzzlement or sadness as far as her reactions to the birthfather/boyfriend's very understandable and expected reactions to her rejection of him. I also couldn't entirely understand her determination to relinquish, even as she had second thoughts. She actually reminds me of some people I've encountered who simply always must create chaos and instability in their lives -- they always have to have plates spinning, and if things start to become too stable, they throw another boulder into the pool. I could hardly keep track of her constant moving, from city to city, sometimes even out of the country and the attendant rupturing of any and all relationships she formed while living in these various cities. It seems like she really should have married the baby's father and had a life with the baby and with him, although I expect that had she done so, she'd still be unhappy, probably feeling too tied down and longing for some kind of elusive adventure. But at least then she would have had her son, so all of the sadness related to relinquishing him wouldn't be there. I couldn't help but continually think that the adoptive family she chose for her son was too perfect. (So I wonder how accurate this is -- the family almost seem like saints, although maybe the author can't take even the slightest risk that the family would cut her out of their lives.) This seems like the ideal open adoption, and, I would suspect that given the opportunity, the adoptive mother would shout from the rooftops that theirs' was a perfect example of how wonderful adoption is, and how this birth mother is really involved and happy, and in a good place regarding the adoption. It seems like, if even in this very best case scenario, the birthmother is still reeling from grief a dozen years later, adoption should virtually never be a consideration. (And really, it should happen less often than it does.) While there are and will always be women who truly are not in a position to parent a child, for various reasons, that number will always be far fewer than the number of people who want to adopt. A lot of people like to conflate abortion and adoption, which are two very different issues. This really shows the difficulty of relinquishing a child, and illustrates the utter ridiculousness of the phrases "just adopt" and "just place the child for adoption." This is all the more highlighted by the author's subsequent choice to have an abortion when faced with another pregnancy, and that it is far more likely a woman will suffer lifelong regret for placing a child, than from having an abortion. Ordinarily, I'd give this 3 stars, for the sometimes difficult to follow timeline, and some of the ruminations that didn't really have anything to do with anything, but I'm adding an extra star because it is such an important addition to all of the writings out there about adoption.

  • Amanda
    2018-11-28 18:12

    This book was powerful and heartbreaking. Amy Seek is a beautiful writer, and the first half of the book clutched me as books do when they describe emotions and experiences I have shared. Her experience of pregnancy (a protected, quiet time, dense with meaning and potential), her capturing of the truly TRANSFORMATIVE nature of giving birth and motherhood, set my heart a flutter with understanding. Her excitement about learning and her persistent efforts to find beauty and meaning in everything made her feel, to me, like a kindred spirit.But through so much of this book I was also gripped by confusion. Despite the repeated mantra that "placing" your child in open adoption is not the same as abandonment, that it's not "giving up" your child, that it's done out of care and love, I still just couldn't understand it. How could she give up her child? She spends the next decade both justifying the choice and struggling with it, and I fully appreciated both the difficulties and benefits of the arrangement. But I can't say that I ever came to understand it, and my guess would be that open adoptions that work as seamlessly as this one appeared to work, are rare. Maybe it's because I'm an introvert, that I have such a hard time imagining how easily the adoptive parents could allow so many other families into their lives.I think some readers will tire of AmySeek as they read this book. It goes on a little too long, and she repeatedly makes choices that sometimes color her as self-centered and selfish. I am pro-choice, and I firmly believe that no one should be a mother if they don't want to be, but if anything, Amy's story emphasizes that it's never really that simple. It wasn't that she didn't want to be a mother, it was that she legitimately felt that she could not do it. But I'm going to be honest, it was hard to buy it-- she had such a strong support system in her family. She had a boyfriend who WANTED to raise the child with her. And here I think if I told my husband about this, I think it would infuriate him. They way the decision was so strictly in the mother's hands. Nevertheless, this book was a beautiful and tender reflection on motherhood and family, and I truly loved it, though it broke my heart in so many places.Every few pages there was a passage I wanted to never forget, and of course, I failed to mark them all down, they were so frequent. I understand that there are choices that stay with you for years, and she does an amazing job describing the landscape of memory and regret.

  • Heidi Gonzalez
    2018-12-13 23:18

    Amy Seek writes a gutwrenching account of placing her son for adoption. Seek has an open adoption with the adoptive family of her son, this means that she meets with them, talks to them and exchanges correspondence. At the beginning of any adoption these days the power really lies with the mother. She is carrying the child, she gets to choose a family, and ultimately it is up to her to decide if she can go through with placement. Seek and her then boyfriend Jevn, take finding a family very seriously. They compose a list of about 100 questions to ask families to see if their values are the same, they interview couples and really take the whole process of finding the "right" family very seriously. After several hours of labor Seek decides to nurse her son, and then ultimately starts having second thoughts. She winds up taking him home and parenting him for about a month before she relinquishes her rights. Given that she had a strong support system and people willing to help I found this book really lacking in the reasons why she decided to place. Its a huge missing gap.Throughout the book you can feel the grief, anger and frustration that Seek still seems to be dealing with regarding her placement of her son, who by the end of the book is a preteen. After placement the power shifted to the adoptive parents and away from Seek leaving her powerless and lost with her emotions. I'm not sure where all the support that she was offered to keep her child went after she placed her baby but this seems to also be a major hole in the story. Despite these big issues and some others that crop up regarding Seek's later pregnancies I don't think I have ever read a more honest and soul bared account of placing a child for adoption. The mix of emotions, grief, anger, happiness, relief, frustration, loss, etc are laid bare for the reader. However that being said some of those emotions often felt detached and just out of reach. This book is a good conversation starter, because as this book proves there is so much more to adoption than just placing a baby, its a lifelong commitment and a lifelong journey for everyone involved in the process.

  • Bonnie
    2018-12-16 22:10

    As an adoptive family, I was eager to read Seek's book. Her writing is lyrical, her emotions immense and honest, her pain raw. Seek was not the "typical" young woman facing the choice of adoption or abortion. She was in her early 20's, in college working at the graduate level, had a supportive significant other willing to assume the role of father and an excellent support system - in her family and friends and co-workers, and had a relatively secure financial base. She would have been a good mother. She knew that she would have been a good mother. And, when reviewing applications from hopeful couples seeking a baby - she could not find anyone who she thought would be as good a mother as she could be. Hundreds of couples were reviewed, interviewed, visited - and found mostly lacking. Just before delivery, Seek chose a couple and the option of an open adoption. For days after her son was born, she hesitated to sign the final papers. Finally she did - but that chapter of the lengthy book was omitted. The question never answered - for me - was why did Seek chose to place her son for adoption?

  • Christine
    2018-11-20 22:17

    I wanted to like this book, because I think the stories of first mothers is too frequently glossed over. I read smaller portions of the book initially, and I had enjoyed those, but I found the writing of the entire book to be exhausting. First, it really needs editing. I think the intent is often flowery language, but it ends up just being endless circles of repetition. Second, I was honestly shocked that Seek chose adoption at all, considering how clearly she feels about the biology being necessary for family. I was stunned with the line about J, A, and S rolling down the hill almost like they were real siblings. What on earth does she think they are? And the idea that she would date anyone who flatly stated that a man could never love another man's child, despite the fact that Seek herself placed her son with a man who did exactly that, three times over. The book does give an honest look at the relationships and how they develop in open adoptions. It's consistent with the stories of people I know in real life.

  • Marti Booker
    2018-12-12 18:07

    Ehh. I'm thinking she just may have overthought this a bit. But, then, I know that we all fail our children in billions of ways, and they will move on into the future without understanding us in the least. I get the idea she kept (keeps?) expecting some outpouring of rage and angst or compassion and enlightenment, but it's way too much to expect from any kid. But, at the same time, it really bothers me how much she under-thought her second pregnancy and the choice she made to abort that child. She even says that she "should" have chosen to abort her first child. Because it would have been easier on her, I guess? She totally glosses over the death of her second child and negated the life of her first with that. I understand there's a PTSD element to that choice, it's very common, but she just gives it less screen time than her meal descriptions. Very odd and very much a disappointing ending to the whole thing.

  • Debbi
    2018-11-24 21:10

    As an adoptive mother in an open adoption the thing that has been the hardest for me to come to terms with was that my overwhelming joy came at a tremendous cost to someone I came to love as a sister. I wrestle with worry that the pictures, stories and memories I share will open deep wounds for her, while at the same time I want her to be a never ending presence in my son's life.This book was exhausting. I don't mean that in a bad way, just that my own joy/grief/anger/love/fear/insecurity were so present as I read these pages that sometimes it felt like I would suffocate. The writing is wonderful but sometimes I needed air and space to continue reading. The story is complex, tangled, ugly and beautiful all at the same time. This is not a beach read or brain candy. It's deep and emotional.

  • Neile
    2018-12-10 21:14

    I was excited to read this book and I wanted to love it, but it was a let-down in some ways. I love reading memoirs, and I'm always interested in books about adoption because I work in the field. I found the first half of the book really took me in, up until she placed the baby with the adoptive family, but after that I lost interest because the story seemed to lose cohesiveness and the intensity was greatly diminished. That being said, there's plenty of great writing in this book and I do recommend it. Amy Seek is a beautiful writer. The way she describes her pregnancy and especially the way she describes the experience of labor, childbirth and the short time afterward is deeply moving. I appreciate that this author shared her unique perspective of such an intimate experience with honesty. I think it will help others have insight about birthmothers and open adoption.

  • Tracy
    2018-11-30 19:12

    Unexpectedly pregnant while in architecture school, Amy Seek decides to have the baby and enter into an open adoption arrangement. She sees the family frequently and she and her extended family develop a good relationship with her son and his family (which includes two other children adopted in open arrangements). Sometimes perplexing, this memoir often skips over things that seem very pertinent (her subsequent abortion; the family's trip to see her in NY). She seems to spend a lot of time thinking about her son and whether she made the right decision to "choose architecture" over motherhood, but there is no denying that the family she selected seem to be very open, kind, considerate people and very good parents to their children.

  • Donna
    2018-11-26 18:09

    One of the most beautifully written memoirs I've read, it presents a view of modern, open adoption from the birth mother's perspective. Seek is in college and about to break up with her boyfriend when she finds out that she is pregnant. After an agonizing search, they decide together which pair of prospective parents to give their son. The relationship established among everyone is kind of like a divorce, where the birth parents and their families are allowed separate supervised visits. They are allowed to love their son in their own ways, and he to love them back.The puzzling title comes from a bit of throwaway dialog between Seek and her son - not a deep discussion about religion or Transformers.

  • Jaclyn Day
    2018-11-29 17:19

    A compulsively readable memoir, but I felt that much of the book was written in a detached, literary manner that absolved her from having to give too much emotion or too much of herself up to the reader. (Understandably.) It’s an emotional book and yet I didn’t always feel that coming off the page. In other words, she writes very eloquently about emotional events without the intensity that you’d expect from the one who lived them. (The notable exception to this off-and-on detachment is her birth story.) There is an opacity to this book–on purpose it seems–that made me forget I was reading a memoir. Despite that, I’m glad I read this and it shed much-needed light on the topic of open adoption.

  • Agatha
    2018-12-10 22:11

    This was a good book written from the perspective of a birth-mother, born in 1977, who found herself pregnant when she was a 22-year-old college student. She and her ex-boyfriend made an adoption plan and hand-picked the adoptive family for their son. She has an open adoption and chose a wonderful family for her son, and she visits them often (at their invitation and urging). However, it still was a momentous decision that has clearly affected her life ever since. She is a very facile writer and obviously is an intelligent and thoughtful person. I appreciated this book very much. (I am a mom two times through (international) adoption.)

  • Gato
    2018-12-10 17:04

    This book is gut wrenching to read but I found myself completely caught up in the story and unable to put it down. The author was born to write. She uses beautiful prose to describe the events which surround her decision to give up her child to adoptive parents...a decision that impacted every single moment of her life in ways she couldn't have imagined when making that choice. I was in tears for much of the book and if I could speak to the author in person I would tell her how incredibly brave and beautiful she is.

  • Elise
    2018-11-23 20:08

    A very moving memoir about adoption. Finding a memoir written by adoptive parents is easy. Finding a memoir written by an adopted person is a little more difficult. I haven't seen another memoir written by an birth parent.This adoption is completely different from my kids' adoptions, but I still want to give their birth mothers hugs. Acknowledging and working through the loss created by adoption is just as important as loving the child.Adoption is a hard thing to celebrate. I'm so glad I read a birth mother's perspective.

  • Kendra Morgan
    2018-11-21 16:26

    My first reaction to God and Jetfire is that it's a sniffling, whiny sob story. That's pretty much my assessment of any work that delves into the why of emotions. They're emotions: you feel it, you accept it, and you move on. There is no WHY! After getting past the all that, I am left with only one emotion: Gratitude. I am grateful to God that he helped me to see that my unexpected child at 18 was a great gift. I can't imagine, and I don't want to imagine, what my life would be like if I didn't have my daughter.

  • Michael Powell
    2018-12-10 18:32

    Amy Seek is a great writer. She didn't plan to be a writer, and this is her first book, so it possesses that honesty that present when the writing isn't an expression rather than a premeditation. Seek tells of an unwanted pregnancy, a surprising decision to have the baby, the search for adoptive parents, and the struggle of letting go. It's quite a journey and the writing is fresh, funny, touching, and honest all along the way.

  • meghann
    2018-12-15 23:04

    I'm still processing it...can't review it coherently just yet. The author's writing is amazing—I felt like I was living the experience with her; the subject matter is difficult but important. I know adoption only from the perspective of an adoptive parent; I have never been let in to the world of a first parent in quite so intimate a way before. Every pre-adoptive parent should read this book. That's all I have for right now...

  • Erin
    2018-12-14 17:15

    I've always been interested in adoption/adopting, but as a young woman who's never had children, I found this narrative was too flowery to be insightful. Beautifully written, but at times the language and descriptions made it even more difficult to relate to this experience that I wanted to learn more about.

  • E
    2018-12-12 21:30

    I read until the baby was about a year, then skimmed the rest. Way too much detail for me to care, and written in very flowery language. I suspect anyone who's been involved in adoption would find it more interesting than I did. I will say, I think the pages she wrote about labor and delivery should be required reading for all girls in middle school.