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Teaching children how to manage their intense emotions is one of the most difficult aspects of parenting or educating gifted children. Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope With Explosive Feelings provides a much-needed resource for parents and educators for understanding of why gifted children are so extreme in their behavior and how to manage the highTeaching children how to manage their intense emotions is one of the most difficult aspects of parenting or educating gifted children. Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope With Explosive Feelings provides a much-needed resource for parents and educators for understanding of why gifted children are so extreme in their behavior and how to manage the highs and lows that accompany emotional intensity. Presented in an easy-to-read, conversational style, this revised and updated second edition contains additional chapters addressing temperament and personality development, as well as expanded role-plays and strategies designed to show parents and teachers how to interact and guide gifted children in a way that teaches them how to recognize, monitor, and adjust their behavior. Updated resources and worksheets make this practical resource a must-read for anyone wishing to make a positive and lasting impact on the lives of gifted children. ...

Title : Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope with Explosive Feelings
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Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope with Explosive Feelings Reviews

  • Medeia Sharif
    2019-05-15 00:43

    This book answered many of my questions pertaining to giftedness in children. Why do gifted children recollect feelings so strongly? Why do they lash out? What to do about mood swings? How about stress management and the strive for perfection?The author wrote about deep psychological issues in a a simple format. She breaks things down, uses case studies, presents scenarios, and provides invaluable information to both parents and teachers. Checklists, tip sheets, and worksheets reiterate important points and strategies to help the reader organize a plan of action.If you're a teacher or parent of the gifted, or you're interested in self-help, parenting and psychology books, then EMOTIONAL INTENSITY will be of interest to you. There are many gifted children struggling in some or all aspects of their lives: friends, family, peers, academics, and emotions. Like any group of young people dependent on the grown-ups around them, these kids need guidance and support. This book is a wonderful tool to help meet their needs. Fonseca has added a great resource to gifted literature.

  • Michelle McLean
    2019-04-24 22:38

    Christine Fonseca’s Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students is a wonderful tool for anyone trying to understand these incredible kids. Ms. Fonseca debunks a lot of the myths associated with gifted children, including assumptions that children with disabilities can’t be gifted, that gifted kids never fail, and most importantly in my opinion, the belief that gifted kids don’t need help to get through school. Ms. Fonseca’s book goes through what it means to be gifted and why that goes hand in hand with being emotionally intense. In addition to tackling assumptions about giftedness, she talks about mislabeling, incorrect diagnosis and shares wonderful information on how to cope with the special needs of gifted children.She shares strategies and illustrates situations and techniques with hypothetical case studies and includes an entire section on how parents and educators can coach these amazing children. The book is full of easy-to-understand tip sheets and includes additional resource suggestions.The best thing about this book – you don’t have to have a PhD in psychology to understand it. It’s straight forward and uncomplicated, giving the reader all the tools they need in a way anyone can understand. I would whole heartedly recommend this book for any parent or teacher of a gifted child.

  • Julie Butcher
    2019-05-19 23:50

    Your child is the smart one, the one who gets bored in school or refuses to do homework, the one who is bullied or has difficulty making friends. Your child has a heart the size of Mount Rushmore, and can inexplicably grasp concepts and emotions that should be impossible for him or her to understand.Your child is in this book.Christine Fonesca, in her book, Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope With Explosive Feelings, deals with problems that we as parents and teachers of gifted and talented children face each day. She explains in compassionate and easy to understand verbiage why our children are like they are and what we can do to help them grow into amazing adults.Ms. Fonesca debunks commonly held myths about the gifted and gives you the tools you need for better parent-teacher relationships, better parent-child relationships, and most importantly makes you realize that there is hope for this group of misunderstood children.I cannot recommend this book strongly enough. Ms. Fonesca’s understanding, compassion, and enthusiasm for gifted and talented children shines in this easily understood read. Her often amusing and sometimes heart breaking examples explain the frustration and brilliance of the gifted in a way I’ve never seen before. Parents, Teachers, you need this book.

  • Danyelle Leafty
    2019-05-13 02:48

    Generally I don't read as much nonfiction, partly because my brain cells are all asleep by the time I can settle down with a book, and partly because a lot of nonfiction is...dry. But one of the first things I noticed about EMOTIONAL INTENSITY is that it felt like Christine and I were sitting down and chatting. I love that the tone of the text is very conversational. It flows with a very natural rhythm that is easy to follow.I was also very impressed at the range of the audience for EMOTIONAL INTENSITY is. This book really is for anyone who is dealing with an emotionally intense child--especially if they're gifted as well. The author speaks to parents, educators, and in some ways, to the children themselves. As a parent who home schools and has four very emotionally intense children, this book has really helped me put things in their proper perspective and come up with a game plan for helping my children cope and embrace their emotional intensity.What can you expect to find?EMOTIONAL INTENSITY is divided into three parts. The first section of the book details what it really means to be gifted. There are a lot of assumptions about giftedness that people take for granted that are more myth than fact. I liked that there was also a chapter in this section that dealt with those who are twice blessed: those who are emotionally intense and gifted, and also have a disability as well. The second section explains how to deal with all the information you learn in the first section. This is the part of the book where you will learn how to put the theory into practice. What makes this even more helpful is that throughout the book case studies are used to highlight the specific section so the HOW TO is illustrated with an example. The third section teaches you how to be a good coach to your child whether your the parent, the caretaker, or the educator.There are also case studies of three different children in each section of the book which helps to illustrate not only what it means to be gifted and emotionally intense, but how those caring for these children can implement simple strategies to help them. I liked that the case studies allowed me to put myself in their shoes.There are also a few extras like checklists and tip sheets that give specific instructions on how to implement some of the coping strategies as well as specific things to look out for. These are tremendously helpful as you can personalize them to specific children. And at the end of the book, there are pages of very helpful resources that cover topics from giftedness, parenting a gifted child, dealing with bullies, and all the other myriad of personality traits a gifted child probably has (like perfectionism and anxiety).So if you're a parent of a child who is gifted or emotionally intense (or both!), an educator, or even someone who has been identified as gifted, I would definitely recommend checking this book out.

  • Sherrie Petersen
    2019-04-28 01:45

    While many of the parenting strategies found in EMOTIONAL INTENSITY IN GIFTED STUDENTS would be useful in any home, what really impressed me were the tips for helping children (as well as parents and teachers) recognize emotional triggers. Once kids and parents learn to see the signs building, they can work together to prevent outbursts and find ways to relax before negative emotions overtake the entire family. Useful tip sheets, checklists and worksheets throughout the book offer practical guidance for working through various issues. The final third of the book helps parents learn how to better communicate and “coach” their children through difficult scenarios.This book is written in a conversational tone, making it incredibly readable. Christine has managed to give her readers real insight into what it means to be gifted and clearly illustrated the internal struggle that children might face as a result. Anyone who works with kids can benefit from reading EMOTIONAL INTENSITY IN GIFTED STUDENTS, but if you have a gifted child in your home, you won’t regret making this book your guide.

  • Joy
    2019-05-01 18:52

    My sister recommended this book to me since we both have very emotionally charged, gifted kids. This book was a pleasure to read. It's not dry or clinical at all, and Christine Fonseca is able to cover the subject of giftedness as both a parent and school psychologist. Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students not only helped me to understand a lot of my son's behavior and issues, but I was able to learn a lot about my own issues and responses to him. There are tip sheets and worksheets throughout to help parents and children start a dialogue to deal with emotional and behavioral issues in a healthy, constructive manner. I love how the focus in this book is on the parent coaching the child in order to empower our exceptional children with the confidence and coping skills they need to handle their strong emotions. I plan to work through the book with my husband and son to learn some of these techniques.I would highly recommend this book to any parent struggling with how to handle the intense emotions of a gifted child.I have to mention that I was very fortunate to receive a signed copy of this book from the author through Goodreads First Reads.

  • Vanessa
    2019-05-15 19:36

    This book is a fabulous resource for anyone with 'intense' children, but particularly with gifted children as well. I normally shy away from books such as these, but even into chapter one I knew it would be helpful. I read is at the beginning of this past school year and waited to reserve judgement until I had tried to use some of the advice given in the book. Nothing substitutes loving, listening and being engaged and concerned for your own children, but this book helped me understand a better way to do it for my daughter and helped me also understand a lot of the "why's" I am am also so baffled about when it came to her behavior. She is much happier, I'm less stressed, and we are no longer off to the doctor's to check on her stress inflicted ulcers (at 9 years old no less.) It's not a magic book, but it's a step in the right direction if you are overwhelmed.

  • Steph Campbell
    2019-05-20 22:31

    I am in love with this book. It is such an amazing feeling to find a resource like this and feel like someone "gets it". We struggle with these issues with Liam so much. It's gotten to the point where I've found myself wishing that he wasn't so smart sometimes because of the emotional struggles that he has. He doesn't want to try anything new if there isn't a guarantee that he can do it perfectly the first time and misses out on so much. I text Chris earlier to tell him I started reading this and was crying tears of relief that someone understands. Raising a gifted child is not a breeze just because they are smarter than their peers. It has it's own unique struggles that are rarely talked about. So glad to have found this book!

  • Cball
    2019-05-04 22:30

    A great resource for ideas/solutions when dealing with highly emotional children. I had stepped away from parenting books relating to the gifted child since I felt like they all seemed to be focused on the 'gifted' part of the child and not what is so challenging to the parent--in my case the emotions. This book was very helpful in explaining and offering step by step solutions parents can take in order to assist their child. It also reframed the social/emotional issues in a way which made them more manageable. In addition to recommending this book to parents of gifted children, the book will also be helpful to parents with highly emotional children as well.

  • Ljconrad
    2019-04-24 23:56

    My review of: Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students! Although I was privileged to receive an advanced copy, I have received no other incentives to review it. I simply believe that this book will make your life as the parent of a gifted child a whole lot easier.From author Christine Fonseca, it is the kind of book that you read … fall in love with … hope there is a sequel (there is) … want to give as a gift to every teacher, school psychologist, and guidance counselor who has ever come in contact with your child … wish it had been available 5, 10, 15 years ago (depending on how old your kids are) … and keep on your nightstand for easy reference at the end of the day. YES, it’s that kind of book! Have I read it? Yep. Have I read it more than once? Yep. Have I purchased extra copies for gifts? You betcha!So, why am I such a fan of this book? Christine Fonseca is not the first person to write about the intense emotions displayed by gifted children, but this book is different. For starters, the author is the parent of two gifted kids. A+ She works as a school psychologist. A+ And, beyond that, she is a hell of a writer … intelligent, engaging, and practical! Need I say more? Why, yes I do!Perhaps the subtitle of this book is the most revealing reason why it is so important for gifted parents to read – Helping Kids Cope with Explosive Feelings. If your child is not in school yet, you may not have encountered the full force of their potential explosive feelings. But, don’t worry … you will! And when it happens, you’ll be thanking me for telling you about this book. Is your little dear a perfectionist? Does he or she exhibit extreme mood swings? How about under performing in school when you know they know it? Do you know how to help them manage the stress? Enter Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students. This book will help you answer all these questions and more. So, what actually sets this book apart from the others? Besides being a good read, Ms. Fonseca includes ‘worksheets’, ‘tip sheets’ and ‘checklists’ for parents as well as ‘notes to the teacher’ throughout the book. She presents strategies that are tried and true. The book is divided into 3 sections – What it Really Means to be Gifted; Great Information, Now What?; and Being Your Child’s Coach – Specific Strategies.After 19 years of gifted parenting, I thought I pretty much knew it all. I was so wrong and I learned so much from reading this book! Now that my children are almost grown, I intend to use what I’ve learned to help other parents.Did I mention the sequel? Why, yes I did in paragraph 2. Coming soon, 101 Success Secrets for Gifted Kids, is intended for your kids. To save time and the angst that may occur should it sell out repeatedly as has Emotional Intensity, may I suggest that you pre-order it along with this book! Trust me … read the book!

  • Melody Riggs
    2019-05-03 02:58

    My daughter's teacher recommended this book to us because over the last two or three months she has had moments where she has exploded at school, either with the teacher or with another student. I was skeptical at first. As an educator myself, I've never been a fan of the "gifted" label. There were some times initially too where the writing style of the book frustrated me (particularly with the author would bring up a new lint and then say it would be discussed later). Also, there were times when i felt the whole book was kind of "dumbed down" (I guess I expected a slightly more elevated writing style considering this is a parenting guide containing research. Maybe I expected something more formal and better organized. But style preference issues aside, the book did offer quite a bit of insight into our daughter's recent behaviors. Our daughter is in her last year of preschool and will attend kindergarten next year. While no test has formally determined that she is gifted, her preschool teacher said she is bright and understands things differently from and usually at a level above her classmates. This book was great at providing some strategies and tips for helping our daughter deal with her frustrations and cope with her sometimes intense outbursts. Sme of the book wasn't quite relevant as our daughter doesn't have homework yet, only attends school for 2.5 hours a day, and is just young. However, we'll probably use this book as a reference in the future should we continue to encounter problems. Right now, the biggest tips bringing peace to our household are the coping strategies to teach children and the tip to parents to distance themselves and not get emotionally invested in situations and tantrums with your child. As an educator with several gifted students in a typical classroom, I found the notes to teachers sections also helpful. Overall is was a quick and informative read with strategies and ideas that my husband and I could begin implementing immediately and easily. I do wish there would've been more information included about younger children since even the youngest case study example was a few years older than my kid.

  • Julie
    2019-05-15 23:53

    I am so grateful that this book was written and that I was able to read it. It answered so many questions for me that I have struggled with in my 23 years of parenting, including: "Why are my children so intense?", and "Why is such and such child having such and such problem, when they are so smart and capable?". It also explained much in my childhood, and really my adulthood also. It explains the special needs and challenges that gifted children face in school, in relationships, and in life. I also explains the special challenges and needs of children that are "dually exceptional" - being both gifted and challenged through learning disabilities or other challenges like ADHD or autism. I have one of these children too.The author does an excellent job of explaining the challenges and issues that gifted children face, and explaining how both parents and educators can help them learn to manage their intense emotional reactions so that they can have more successful relationships and school experiences.I especially appreciated the section on learning to be a coach for your child. It gave examples of behavioral problems and frustrations that gifted children often have, and gave a typical parental response to them, breaking down the mistakes the parent often makes in such a conversation. It then teaches how to effectively communicate with a child so that you are coaching them to learn to solve their own problems, rather than simply disciplining the child.

  • Taffy
    2019-05-18 22:50

    This book is great for any parent but especially for those who parent and teach gifted children. It wouldn't hurt all teachers and principals to read this book!What I loved: Christine starts at the beginning by educating the reader what a gifted child is and why they are more emotional. She goes over the mislabels, myths, diagnosis, etc. that often accompany a gift child's emotions.Every chapter is short and doesn't read like a college text book. Christine uses understandable terms. At the end of each chapter, she has extra help/ ideas for teachers.I LOVE case studies and stories. Every chapter has them and really helped me to ingrain what I was reading. She has tips, worksheets and checklists to help. This book was a great help to me. It was well written, concise, understandable.What I didn't like: Nothing!

  • Sara
    2019-05-03 20:38

    As a female who studied at a gifted school for 7 years and parent of an 8-year old gifted and spirited boy I found this an excellent book full of practical strategies for coaching and helping gifted children with their emotional and behavioral issues. I think it is one of the few resources that describes the emotional intensity of gifted children in great detail and gives parents the tools they need to make a shift from managing child's behavior to understand and shape the way in which child reacts with his/her world.

  • Marissa Morrison
    2019-05-17 19:41

    This is probably the best book I've read about helping kids deal with big emotions. Fonseca references Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities and explains that a high level of emotional intensity is totally normal in the gifted population. In addition to urging parents and teachers to recalibrate their expectations, Fonseca recommends specific ways to help kids deal with emotional intensity, anxiety, perfectionism, friendships and bullying. I wish that the book contained less general discussion and more practical advice.

  • Shanna
    2019-05-02 19:35

    I recommend this book for anyone with an intense child. I devoured this book in just a couple of evenings after a rough few weeks with my 7yo son. It's a wonderful feeling to feel like this is a "normal" thing that some parents experience and you truly are not doing something terribly wrong. This book is filled with indispensable advice and, beyond that, scenarios that make you realize this may be a different kind of normal.

  • Cindelu
    2019-05-19 20:44

    I won this book on Goodreads.Having gifted granddaughters that I regularly interact with I was very interested in reading this book.I read the nearly 200 pages in about an hour and a half. It was easy to read, enlightening and validated many of the emotions and behaviors I have witnessed in my granddaughters. I especially enjoyed the scenarios and conversations between children and adults, then an explanation of that conversation and then a coaching method of dealing with the situation. I am grateful to have new methods of coping with some situations and will be trying them. I'm giving this to their mom to read also.

  • ladydusk
    2019-05-05 22:37

    Library.There were a couple of sections of this book that I found interesting and/or useful. The conversational tone annoyed me, a more professional or informational tone would have been better. The redundancy got a bit old. The model conversations could be helpful if a parent can out-talk their gifted student. I didn't think the book did a good job of defining "giftedness" to begin with. It was helpful to see some of the behaviors described and to consider some of the reasons for those behaviors. I will admit to "in depth skimming" much of the book. I don't like the pop-psychology, situational responses or the generalizations based on an unspecified sample size.

  • Megan
    2019-05-05 23:41

    Not quite finished with this one, but essentially the author is encouraging parents to use a positive behavior support system in the home - I don't think she called it that, but I definitely felt the suggestions were incredibly similar to what teachers are asked to do in classrooms. Then kids know in advance what expected behaviors are and can relate them to a predetermined acronym. I should probably go back and reread the sections on handling the meltdowns...

  • Nick
    2019-05-03 18:55

    It's like I found the guide book for my son. This Book has a lot of good info in it. There are many conversation examples- that point out where they went wrong and how to fix them. I did skip most of the notes to the teacher sections. Also there are pages of recommended reading on several subjects (anxiety, bullying, dually exceptional etc) at the end. If only I could get my husband to read this!!

  • Jen
    2019-05-17 18:51

    You can read my complete review at This book is for any parent who has an emotionally intense child. You know, the one you look at pretty much every day and wonder WHAT.THE.HELL? The one who can change mood on a knife's edge, who is just "more," who just doesn't seem to roll with the punches as well as others. Get your hands on this book; it's the one I wish we'd had five years ago.

  • Alison
    2019-04-23 21:50

    This is quite a good book -- easy to read and useful information for those of us who have very intense (!) kids. It didn't address the one particular issue I was hoping for, but there are lots of generic strategies discussed. The list of websites and books at the back of this book are very useful for further information.

  • Elizabeth Nugent
    2019-04-28 21:41

    This book is really interesting, and I think that some of the techniques will be useful for my daughter. However, some of them seem like an awful lot of work! I sometimes feel like I'm expected to be out in advance of every experience she has, and I just can't do that. Easier for stay-at-home parents, I expect.

  • Rebekah Sheppard
    2019-05-16 00:48

    This book is a must for helping your child (and yourself) in coping with your child's strong emotional outbursts, and gives specific dialogue examples in helping your child work through perfectionism, risk aversion, and underachievement.

  • Elyse
    2019-05-19 21:29

    I recommend this to anyone who is gifted or has a child who is gifted. Giftedness is a blessing and a curse. This book helps appreciate and embarrass both. It is a difficult read for some who appreciates literature and fine writing. The structural components were weak. The content was awesome.

  • Kim Baccellia
    2019-05-10 01:50

    I loved this book! I went over some of the definitions and totally saw my son here. He's the dual gifted child with a learning disability. The examples and worksheets are easy to read and follow. For sure I'd recommend this book. Now I'm going over to buy the supplement book.

  • Raechel Wolcott
    2019-04-23 02:50

    A great place to startHaving just found out our kindergartener is gifted but was labeled developmentally delayed because of his big emotions this was a good place to start. Its not uncommon. Are there are things you can do to help

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  • Jehnie
    2019-04-23 01:40

    The closest I've had in 5 years to a blueprint for Andrew.

  • Kirsti Call
    2019-05-22 02:42

    This book is packed with concrete ways to deal with intense children.