-Man is not merely self-creating freedom. Man does not create himself. He is intellect and will, but he is also nature, and his will is rightly ordered if he respects his nature, listens to it and accepts himself for who he is, as one who did not create himself. In this way, and in no other, is true human freedom fulfilled.- - Pope Benedict XVIDaniel Mattson once believed-Man is not merely self-creating freedom. Man does not create himself. He is intellect and will, but he is also nature, and his will is rightly ordered if he respects his nature, listens to it and accepts himself for who he is, as one who did not create himself. In this way, and in no other, is true human freedom fulfilled.- - Pope Benedict XVIDaniel Mattson once believed he was gay, but no longer. Raised in a Christian family, and aware of attractions to other boys at age six, Mattson's life was marked by constant turmoil between his faith in God and his sexual attractions. Finding the conflict too great, he turned his back on God in anger and decided to live life the way the world said he should--guided by his desires for men, he accepted that he was gay and found a man to share a life with. Yet he discovered the happiness and freedom that the gay rights movement promised him to be an empty mirage. In this honest and frank memoir, Mattson chronicles his journey from living a life as a gay man, to finding freedom in living out the call of chastity, rooted in humbling accepting the reality of his true sexual nature, given by him by God: he is simply a man, like any other man who has walked the face of the earth.Part memoir, part philosophy about reality, and part a practical guide for living chastely, Mattson draws lessons from his own fight for chastity, sharing wisdom from his own failures and successes. Relying on the rich deposit of the saints for wisdom, Mattson provides practical steps in battling for chastity, rooted above all else in humble reliance on Jesus as man's holiness. Recalling his own struggles in discovering the meaning of true friendship, Mattson reflects on the nature of friendship, and the temptations which can often enter the realm of friendship for a man like him. He explains the Catechism's difficult phrases about homosexuality, such as -intrinsically disordered- and finds within them liberating truth. His journey comes full circle when his lifelong search for happiness and peace is found in the realization that, above all else, what is true about him is that he is a beloved child of God.In his honest look at his own wounds, shortcomings and his battle with God, Mattson has written a book for everyone who has ever wondered who they are, why they are here, and where God can be found when we suffer. A welcome voice of sanity among the muddled thinking of modern society who believes that sexual identity is rooted in the realm of feelings and desires, Mattson urges the Church to unabashedly proclaim the Good News that Christ said while he walked among us: -Have you not read that He who made them from the beginning made them male and female?-...
|Title||:||Why I Don't Call Myself Gay: How I Reclaimed My Sexual Reality and Found Peace|
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Why I Don't Call Myself Gay: How I Reclaimed My Sexual Reality and Found Peace Reviews
In light of recent buzz about the Catholic Church and the LGBT Community, I ventured that this book would lift the veil to the sometimes seemingly mysterious struggles of those who experience same sex attraction (SSA). Although a scientific and theological understanding of this delicate topic is essential, the personal testimony and experience of someone who has actually suffered and fought to understand and incorporate the teachings of the Church into his raw human life with all of its wounds, failures and unrelenting sinful inclinations proves invaluable. Mattson is to be greatly commended for his great courage and extreme vulnerability in sharing the very private struggles of his sexuality and the experiences that both formed and reinforced his inclinations towards the same sex. Mattson exposes his struggles frankly and with a dignity consistent with the goal of his work. Far from being exclusively autobiographical, Mattson offers practical advice which is often applicable to all Catholics striving to live out the Church’s teaching on Chastity. Employing a number of credible sources both Catholic and non-Catholic, along with the lives of the Saints, Mattson does a remarkable job in showing readers the plausibility of the Church’s teaching on homosexuality and chastity in general. This text is the fruit of suffering and what, in theological terms, must be attributed to grace. Although the temptation is often to dismiss or ignore the complex struggles of others which do not seem immediately relevant to our own lives, this book, with fluidity and fidelity to the Truth, not only opens a window of understanding to the suffering hearts of those who journey on this unique path to virtue, but beckons that in Christian charity we compassionately support those who struggle to live out these hard teachings of true freedom in search for their true identity as beloved sons and daughters of God the Father.
This was such a beautiful book. I've had the chance in the past to meet Dan at some talks he's given and his brother is my pastor so I initially was interested in the book because of my connection to the author. Reading his testimony was difficult. To encounter the wounds of another is always difficult and to receive the vulnerability of another as they bare their soul is a sacred thing. Most of the time I read the beginning of the book, I felt somewhat disconnected - not in a bad way, mind you - Dan allowed me in, to experience his pain, and that is deeply connecting. Rather, I felt like what he was communicating about same sex attraction was something I didn't have a context for relating to but something about which I could still feel sympathy. In other words, the book was about somebody "else."But then, as Dan began the second half of his book and spoke about the guidance he has received from the Church and the saints, his reflections on human nature, virtue, humility, and being a beloved son, I saw how the particular struggles I have experienced in my life were rooted in the same truths about human nature - it's fallenness and it destiny in glory.What Dan has done here is not simply given us a witness about living same sex attraction in the Catholic Church, he's given us a beautiful description of the life of a pilgrim on the road to the Father's House. And he's given me a lot to take to prayer myself. Thanks Dan
This is a fairly written, well-researched book that is both a fascinating memoir as well as a good social history of the past 50 years. Anyone who wants to recommend it to someone with same-sex attraction should first read it from start to finish. The book includes great information on the truth of the Roman Catholic Church on same sex attraction, with references to the Catechism. It is a good apologetics primer for a Catholic who needs to refute a charge the our church is homophobic. It includes inspirational references from spiritual leaders, as well as an historical summary of the changes in our language about sexuality and gender. Mr. Mattson takes the position that he is a man, as defined by Nature, who has same sex attraction. That is the source of the title of the book. He is an active member of Courage International, also known as Courage Apostolate and Courage for short. This is an approved apostolate of the Catholic Church that counsels “men and women with same-sex attractions in living chaste lives in fellowship, truth and love.”I recommend that every Catholic should read this book.
Éste libro es de lectura obligada a todo aquel hombre que siente atracción por de los de su mismo sexo, y que desea encontrar respuesta a las preguntas fundamentales sobre quién soy.El testimonio del autor, brinda al lector herramientas para formación de su criterio y así pueda discernir de las experiencias relatadas y de las reflexiones contenidas. Lejos de condenar una u otra postura, el autor narra las decisiones que tomó en su vida y las consecuencias de cada una, su viaje es demasiado interesante y rico en preguntas, sabio en buscar respuestas. Obligado para todo cristiano católico que tenga el firme deseo de comprender la postura de la Iglesia sobre la homosexualidad y sobre como apoyar a un ser querido o amigo que está pasando por esa situación. 5 estrellas.
This is a heart-rendingly honest book: Mattson doesn't spare himself, or us, as he explores his difficult journey to discover his real self. A fascinating antidote to some of the dominant narratives on either side of this politically charged debate: one man's experience that doesn't conform to the claims of many on either extreme...
A superb book that not only relates a deeply personal and humbling memoir of the author's life with same-sex attractions, but also proves itself to be a universally essential spiritual guide for growing in humility, developing true friendships, recognizing the joy of hard-earned chastity, and so much more. I can't recommend it enough.Thank you for your testimony.